Girls talk in hongdae: Human Relationship

So yesterday I met my uni friend to talk about stuffs that were going around us. She was going through hard time for her personal reasons, and me, I was just worried that I have to go to school back and meet bunch of new people.

I wanted to go to random cartbar, but she said that she had a place where she wanted to go, so we went there. I wish I could remember the name of the bar but I can not remember it. The food was great. We had cocktail and chicken salad. Although we did not have dinner, it made us full.

Chicken Salad

Cocktail: Peach crush&Kahlua Milk

Getting to the point, while eating we talked about how hard human relationship was, by looking back to freshman year that we spent.

At the very first semester of my school, me and my friends had hard time when people misapprehend what we said or behaved. The hardest thing was that trivial misunderstanding led to a gross misunderstanding. Even though we stood up to tell people what is true and what is not, they did not listen, they just listened to the things they wanted to listen. We were disappointed since people won't listen to us and just see what they want to see, but now when I think about this incident in their shoes, I thought that somehow they could be dissapointed with us too. But for us at that time (and maybe now- I don't have any feelings on people related with this incident) this was not only the thing that was heartbreaking. The most heartbreaking thing was that people I trusted did not believed us, or try to understand us, and even worse, making rumors. So after the incident me and my friends could not keep in touch with them (maybe did not would be the better expression), and when I meet them in the school, I felt super uncomfortable.

However thanks to this incident, me and my friends could figure out who the 'real friend' is. A real friend, who can stand up for us no matter what. They have been with us even though we had rumors around the school. They helped us alot to not to think about the incident, and try to make people to see the truth, telling what they have misunderstood.

The result of this incident was kinda harsh for us. Well for me, I did not go to school for a month since I was busy working as a volunteerer in Incheon Asian Games so I didn't have to feel the uncomfortableness and awkwardness, but for my other friends, I am pretty sure that they had to go to hard time- keep confronting people who makes us to feel super super super uncomfortable. Also they say that they now feel no reason to make new friends, since we have enough friends- that is 'real friend'. (Well I kinda feel the same way too) For them (and maybe me also), meeting new people comes to a stress since we have to beware of every behavior, and every word that we speak not to make any misunderstanding- we do not want to go through same incident again.

This is what me and my friend basically talked about...Through a incident, we lost some, we earned some and we learned some. Human relationship is hard, and is going to be hard. Maybe when we look back, this incident would be just nothing. But it is true that it gave us harsh time- it was the incident that I never went through in highschool, or through my whole life. I never thought human relationship would be hard when I was in highschool. I really learned a lot through this incident- that since university is a place where people from all around comes to study, it acts like a small society. It is obvious that every people has different point of view, and if they are human, it is their nature to believe what they want to believe and see what they want to see, and that is what I have to understand, not blame people that they saw what they wants to see and believed what they wants to believe.

Tomorrow, is a Lunar New Year. After two weeks, I have to go back to school again. This year, with my 'real' friends, I hope I finish my sophomore year happily without any super bothering incidents.